once upon a time, before i was the mama to the monkey and the bird, i was known by my friends as someone else… namely,

ONE HALF OF THE POOR COUPLE WHO STRUGGLED FOR 3+ YEARS WITH INFERTILITY.

anyway, perhaps i’ll post again soon about the lessons i learned (and the large objects i wanted to hurl across the room) during this painful time. i wrote an essay a while back about my experiences with in vetro fertilization, and it was published in a book called oh god, oh god, oh god!: young adults speak out about sexuality and christianity.

i was reminded of the book just now when i read this review by sarah kinney gaventa on the fidelia’s sisters e-zine, and decided to post the link here because one of you recently left a comment asking for posts related to the infertility struggle.

those years were truly heartbreaking but they have given me the gift of connection with other women who are in the thick of the cycles of disappointment. the chances i have had to walk with other women through in vetro and other infertility issues have been strangely redemptive. this is why i’ve gone so public about such a private matter.

the monkey and the bird came to us in an unconventional way, and we thank god and modern science every day!